Friday, February 14, 2014

Valentine's Day, Sacrificial Friendship

In an ongoing quest to practice what I preach on my blog, I have set aside my own schedule for this morning to share my life and my thoughts with my readers. My thoughts of late have revolved around friendship, and the sacrifices we are willing to make to maintain one; also the sacrifices that we are unwilling to make that can lead to the death of a friendship. Then, too, there are our expectations, and if we manage them well and see the limits of what our friends are willing and unwilling to do for us, we will not be surprised, hurt, or disappointed by their words or actions. For instance, I have some friends who I've noticed are unwilling to set aside their schedules to talk with me for a significant amount of time. This might well be hurtful, except that I know this is how they are, so I don't set myself up for disappointment by interrupting their schedule; I instead go to a friend with different priorities, a friend who will set aside some time for me, even when it wasn't part of her day's schedule. This is something that's been on my mind, and it makes me ask myself if I am a sacrificial friend, if my friends know that relationships are always my first priority, above laundry, reading, walking the dog, shopping, etc. etc.

2 comments:

Linda B. said...

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I have a bit of a snafu going on between me and some friends right now. I am definitely seeing the differences in people and how much they are willing to bring to the table in order to maintain the friendship vs letting it go. It's no fun when you feel you pull all the weight in the friendship. There needs to be balance. I am also seeing where having a few solid friends is healthier than many fair-weather friends. (Great photo, too!)

The White Wave said...

I have a whole shelf of books dedicated just to friendship. As wonderful as it is, it can also be super confusing, frustrating, and even hurtful. One thing I've learned: I should NOT just throw my hands up in the air, move to Wisconsin where I don't know anyone, and start my life over with new friends. It's worth it to work things out with old friends.